Nightmares and Imagery Rehearsal Therapy

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Problems with nightmares are reported by a sizable proportion of individuals with a history of trauma and by approximately 5% to 8% of the general population. Chronic nightmares may represent a primary sleep disorder rather than a symptom of a psychiatric disorder, and direct targeting of nightmares is a feasible clinical approach to the problem. Of the treatments proposed, imagery …

Sleeping Pills That Don’’t Let You Sleep

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The Health Journal column in Monday’s Wall Street Journal discusses the dangers of taking sleeping pills and the rise in somnambulism that is more likely to occur taking nonbenzodiazepines (NBZs). Ambien is the leading brand-name NBZ; others are Lunesta and Sonata. Last year the FDA required that “sedative-hypnotic” drugs carry strong warnings, following reported cases of people sleep walking, eating, …

Are You in a Co-Dependent Relationship?

Co-dependency is not a standalone mental health problem but a learned behavior. The term “co-dependent” was originally coined to indicate adults living with someone (usually another adult) who is an addict. The addiction can be to alcohol – and that was how the term was intended – or to drugs, gambling, sex, relationships, work, food, shopping, or any behavior that …

Divorce: Statistics and how to not become one

In America, a divorce occurs every 36 seconds. That’s over 2,400 divorces each day. A common statistic that you hear is that 50% of marriages end in divorce. Luckily, this information slightly off: the divorce rate peaked in the 1980s at 40% and has been decreasing slowly for most age groups ever since. This number is definitely little better, but …

How to Cope With Shame

Strategies for coping with shame that can help you get out of the shame cycle. Shame can be a devastating feeling that never seems to go away. It’s that pestering embarrassment and sadness that never lets you feel validated. It’s a feeling that’s corrosive, shameful, and difficult to overcome. It often starts in childhood, continues to adolescents and keeps rearing …

Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)

As one of the most innovative and modern types of cognitive – behavioral psychotherapy, the Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) has revolutionized the way an approach to treatment of a borderline personality disorder was taken up to the late 1980s, when DBT was introduced by Marsha M. Linehan. The initial approaches to treatment provided highly efficient results, proving that DBT is …

5 critical communication skills that everyone needs to know

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5 critical communication skills that everyone needs to know. One of the primary reasons that couples enter counselling or therapy is because they don’t properly communicate with each other. Strong communication is the cornerstone of any relationship and can have wonderfully positive effects on all parts of your professional and personal life. If you don’t have excellent communication skills, your relationships can …

Should We Break Up Or Stay Together?

Relationships go through phases. At one point in time, for example, both life partners can literally do no wrong. Toilet paper backward on the roll, coffee too weak or too strong, calling a former love interest more than once, refusing to have dinner with the in-laws. It’s all good. Then come those times when nothing is right. She has PMS, …

Tips for Surviving Infertility in a Marriage

Infertility can be one of the most difficult experiences a couple can go through, both individually, and together. The feelings of loss, confusion, and stress are enough to put a strain on any relationship. If you’ve decided to seek out fertility treatments of any kind, that add even more stress because most of your focus will be on those strategies. …

Couples Therapy: Myths and Reality by Ruth Jampol

Maintaining a positive, supportive relationship with one’s partner in the face of expected and unusual life stress is one of the biggest challenges many couples face.  Not uncommonly, instead of pulling together to face life’s difficulties, partners become disengaged or even hostile. The person you expect to always have your back begins to feel like the enemy. And sometimes it …

What’s the Problem with Conscious Uncoupling?

It is far easier to meet a series of strangers and think we have relationships than build and grow a relationship with one individual or a family of individuals over time. So you meet someone for the first time in a place you like to go, a place of habit you frequently find yourself visiting, or a place that has …

The Benefits of Forgiveness in Couple’s Therapy

“You have wronged me” she said. “You have been unfaithful, deceitful and uncaring.” His expression is one of remorse. “I’m so sorry” he replied. “How can I make it up to you?” The therapist observes. She believes there is hope for this couple. It’s her turn now. She has been trained in various healing approaches but which one will she …